One of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage is over the physical relationship.
I Corinthians 7:5 (Ph), "Do not cheat each other of normal sexual intercourse... or you will expose yourselves to the obvious temptation of Satan."
Sex is a spiritual responsibility in a marriage and it's a very exclusive relationship. When you got married, hopefully, you made a commitment that said, "I will limit my physical, sexual expression just to you and no one else will be involved." We have made a commitment in our marriage that if my mate is going to have a great lover it's going to be me. We have tried to decide that we would meet each other's needs in such a way that we would be absolute fools to be interested in anybody else.
A pastor said one time that it was his goal to keep his lawn so green that it made other's look brown in comparison. That's the goal that we have for ourselves.
There was a scientific survey that was to determine what days most husbands desire love making. They discovered that it was the days that begin with the letters "T": Tuesday, Thursday, Today, Tomorrow, Tatursday, and Tunday.
I heard of a three years survey done by a sexologist. He did a study of 2000 married men between the ages of 25 and 55 and they found that there were four things these men would rather do than make love to their wife:
1. Watch sports on TV
2. Walk the dog
3. Have a barbecue and beer with friends
4. To play a round of golf.
That truly was a study. It made me start to think, "What was the problem?" Sex does cause a lot of conflict in marriage and I think a lot of people just kind of give up.
Another reason, I think is in our culture we're just too busy and it's easy to lose interest. But the point of it is this: it shows that we've got to maintain our marriages. Marriages typically need a lot of work.
Just a thought from the front porch…