We need to be in control of our response, not to react. Gentle people are proactive not reactive.
A proactive person is someone who is responsible. They are response-able – able to control their response. Their response is a function of their decision, not their conditions. A reactive person is controlled by other people. They build their emotional lives on the behavior of others and they let the weaknesses in others control them.
Reactive people are driven by feelings and circumstances, conditions and their environments. But a proactive person, although they are influenced by all of these things controls their response to other people.
The term "You make me so angry", is that true? No. You choose and I choose to react. We can do so many great things in our lives, have great successful careers, be doing great things for GOD, be liked by lots of people, but we can't even control our own response. That just doesn't make sense!
Proverbs 16:32 (NASB), "He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his own spirit, than he who captures a city."
I want to challenge you, especially you men, are you in control of your response? Are you in control of the anger that comes out?
Just a thought from the front porch…