look at what paul says in philippians 1.7 (tev), you are always in my heart! and so it is only right for me to feel as i do about you.
have you discovered yet that if people are not in your heart, they're on my nerves? if you don't have your kids in your heart, they get on your nerves. if you don't have your husband in your heart, he gets on your nerves. if you don’t have your wife in your heart she gets on your nerves.
so many families today are falling apart and it’s because the members of the family are reacting to each other from their mind rather than from their heart.
husband or wife comes in and shares a feeling, shares an emotion….says i just feel this way and our reaction is from the mind. hey wait a minute. you shouldn’t feel that way. that’s dumb. that’s illogical. it doesn’t make sense. let me show you the the five reasons why you shouldn't feel that way and we try to set them straight so they will be intellectually enlighten. we approach them from our mind not our heart.
when your wife says, "i feel depressed" listen to her; it's legitimate. when your husband says, "i don't feel this is the right thing we ought to do. we ought to do it this other way." listen to him. listening and loving from the heart hears the feelings behind the words.
heart love begins with understanding, knowing why they feel that way. why does the guy at work act like such a jerk? maybe you don't know the background he grew up in. maybe he's tons better than he used to be ten years ago. hear the hurt, look for the problems, know what makes your mate tick.
you cannot love someone you don't understand. understanding them makes it easy (or easier).
you need to understand the moods of the people closest around you, why they act the way they do. if you care, you'll be aware.
just some thoughts from the front porch...
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