let's get along...

april 2, 2009
james 3.17 (ms) says that real wisdom, GOD's wisdom…is characterized by getting along with others.

a person who is wise will not antagonize other’s anger, they will strive to get along with people.

let me ask you a personal, pointed question. do you have a tendency to make people angry? then you are dumb, you are not wise. wise people work at maintaining harmony. they're not always looking for a fight.

have you ever met someone who is always arguing, always looking for a fight?

i heard about a guy who was so argumentative that he would only eat food that disagreed with him.

proverbs 20.3 (tev), any fool can start arguments. the wise thing is to stay out of them.

do you know what causes arguments? if you're wise you know so you can avoid them. three things that cause arguments…

1. comparing. "you're just like…", "why can't you be like…", "when i was your age…" you're asking for a fight. "my first husband…" 2 corinthians 10:12 says it's unwise to compare.

2. condemning. "it's all your fault." "you should be ashamed." you lay on the guilt. "you always." "you never," "you ought to," "you should…," "you shouldn't".

someone said, "you can bury your marriage with a lot of little digs."

3. contradicting. how do you like to be interrupted in the middle of a sentence? it's irritating.
james says if you are wise you don't sweat the small stuff. williams james says, "the secret of wisdom is knowing what to overlook." some things are just not worth the fight. wisdom is getting along with people.

if i'm smart, if i'm wise in relationships, i won't antagonize your anger.

proverbs 14:29 (lb), a wise man controls his temper. he knows that anger causes mistakes.

how many of you have done something stupid in anger? anger causes mistakes.

just some thoughts up here on the front porch…