trust them with responsibility. that’s how you
build confidence. whether it’s in a
child or an employee or friend, trust them with responsibility. nothing builds confidence faster than
trusting them with responsibility. all of us have a need to be trusted, to
prove ourselves, to develop competence and skill.
have you
ever been on the first day of a job?
well there was this young pastor who was in his first church. the lead
pastor had been there for nearly 20 years, he had a doctor’s degree. the young guy was very intimidated by
him. this older pastor brought him into
the office and set him down, his first day on the staff, and said, “you
wouldn't be here if i didn’t trust you.
the fact is i do trust you so whatever you want to do to try to reach
young people for CHRIST, i’ll support you in.”
the young guy said, “i blossomed with that kind of trust. somebody believed in me. somebody said, ‘go
for it!’”
that’s
what happens when you tell your kids, “i’m going to give you some
responsibility.” over protectionism is a
form of rejection. you’re in essence
saying, “you’re incompetent. you can’t
do it. i’ve got to do it for you.”
when we
take responsibility for people, we take it away from them. no matter how much you love that person, if
you won’t let them grow up, you’re rejecting them. you can love someone and reject them at the
same time. if you won’t let them grow
up, if you won’t let them change. give
them responsibility.
proverbs
11.13 (gnb), you can put confidence in
someone who is trustworthy.
john
20.21 (niv) JESUS said, as the FATHER has sent ME, so am I sending
you.
JESUS trusted
HIS disciples. would you? would you trust the disciples with the
salvation of the world? JESUS did. they were ordinary people and they blossomed
because HE accepted their uniqueness and HE trusted them with responsibility.
frank
freed once said, “if i were a parent starting over i’d do less for my kids and
make them do more for themselves to build their confidence.”
just a
thought from the front porch…
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