what's the solution? how do you deal with perfectionism? what the cure for perfectionism?
there’s only one cure for perfectionism. it’s one word, the most important word in the bible: grace.
until you understand what grace is all about, you're going to battle the paralysis of perfectionism, trying to do better and still feeling like you come up short.
the root of perfectionism is a misunderstanding of what GOD’s like. growing up, every one of us were conditioned by what psychologists call conditional love. when we were a good little girl/boy we were rewarded with love and affection. when we were bad, we were punished with rejection. so as a result we got quickly in our mind that we’ve got to earn acceptance. the problem is that we take it and transfer it to GOD. we think GOD is the same way that everybody else is. if i’m good, GOD accepts me. if i’m bad, GOD rejects me.
but the fact is, the bible says, “while we were yet sinners, CHRIST died for us.” the bible says that GOD loves you just as much on your bad days as HE does on your good days, because HIS love is not based on your performance. the path of performance is not the way to GOD. it’s grace. that’s the most important theme in the bible. grace.
just a thought from the front porch…