There was an article about something to do to improve your relationship – It said, you should both write down the five things in your relationship that irritate you the most in the other person. Then set down and have an airing out session where you talk about those things, one to the other. But we get defensive about being wrong. Yet integrity is deciding to ask GOD to help me let go of my feelings of defensiveness and just admit it when I'm wrong.
I want you to understand where the strength to do this comes from. You're not going to find the strength to be forgiving, to admit it when you're wrong in your own good character. You don't find it there. You're not going to find it in the other person's good character. It's not going to happen that way. It's found in GOD's forgiveness of us. I John 1:9 (LB), "If we confess our sins to HIM, HE can be depended on to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong."
If you want to be forgiving, you must be forgiven. You must find in JESUS CHRIST the forgiveness that we all need. That's where that strength comes from. Struggling to forgive others, 90% of the time it's because you need to recognize the wonderful forgiveness in your life. That's the place to start.
Just a thought from the front porch…