Saturday, April 26, 2014

Dishonesty means one thing…

Proverbs 24:26 (TEV), "An honest answer is the sign of a true friendship." 

Dishonesty is just a lack of love.  If I'm not honest with you, it means one thing, I don't really love you.  The loving thing to do is to be honest.  Dishonesty is actually a lack of love.  An honest answer is the sign of a true friendship.

Proverbs 28:23 (LB), "In the end, people appreciate frankness more than flattery." 

If you don't deal with it now, that area that you're not being honest about in your relationship, you will deal with it someday.  You are only postponing the inevitable crisis.  The longer you put off a problem, discussing it in a relationship, the worse it gets.  It festers.  The boil has to be lanced.  If you're not being honest in a relationship, what you're doing is you're sabotaging the relationship.  Inevitable there will be a crisis that you're going to have to say, "Ok, let's just put the cards on the table.  Let me tell you what I don't like.  You tell me what you don't like."  That's the fear: "If I told my husband how I really resent how much time he spends at work and how it hurts our marriage, he'd blow up."  "If I really told my wife how frustrated I am with our love-life she'd accuse me of a one track mind."  "If I really told my parents what I wanted to do with my life and where I wanted to go to school, they'd kick me out of the house."  You've got to risk honesty if you care about the relationship.

Just a thought from the front porch…


Rum-Punch Drunk said...

Being dishonest can give someone a terrible name, and it's very hard to get anyone to accept what they're saying.

It's best to give a honest answer, and it's always a good idea to make sure you do so at the right time and place when it's concerning sensitive matters. I totally agree, that if you're being dishonest, it will surely hang over your head for a long time, and it always comes back to bite you when you least expect it.

Nice Post Bill.

Bill Williams said...

So very true.