We are looking at how affairs develop and step three is physical involvement.
No explanation needed here. The line has been crossed. There is actual physical contact. From what people have told us when they have been in affairs frequently the intensity of passion and emotion is stronger than anything they have ever experienced in marriage. Because of that, the thought of having to break up that relationship is almost more than people can bear.
Don't cross the line into physical involvement. Don't put yourself in a situation where you have to break off something that is this intense and has meant something to you. It's deadly and it's wrong.
And then step four is rationalizing the affair.
We are great at pulling the wool over our own eyes. We can convince ourself that anything is OK. We can talk ourselves into anything if we want to badly enough.
Jeremiah 17:9 says, "The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. Who can know it?"
Some excuses we've heard over the years: "If only my husband/wife meant my needs I wouldn't have done this." "Just one more time". "We love each other."
True love will never fracture another person's family. That is not love.
Also two others that are very true: "GOD will forgive me no matter what I do." "GOD loves me no matter what I do." That is exactly true. GOD will forgive you of anything and GOD will love you. HE will never stop loving you no matter what you do. But here's the point: It is so arrogant for us to presume on the grace of GOD that way. Don't deceive yourself, stop rationalizing.
Just a thought from the front porch…