we are looking at being peacemakers as JESUS' 7th beatitude in matthew 5.9 (niv) says will make us happy, blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of GOD.
now we have gotten together with the one we are having a problem and we have paid attention to their feelings now we attack the problem but not the person.
you can't focus on fixing the problem and fixing the blame at the same time. it's impossible. if you go to the meeting thinking you're going to blame the other person, then forget it.
proverbs 15.1(tev), a gentle answer quiets anger but a harsh one stirs it up.
engage your mind before you engage your mouth. be sincere, not sarcastic. you don't get the point across by being cross. attack the problem not the person. don't criticize, condemn and compare.
ephesians 4.29 (tev), do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed.
don't go condemning the person. don't be criticizing and comparing. say things that build people up, not put them down.
the language of love by gary smalley will teach you how, in conflict, to say the right thing and not the wrong thing.
just a thought from the front porch…
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