so you are having a conflict with someone and you set up a time for a face to face talk time with them and in this time you need to pay attention to the other person’s feelings, to their needs.
philippians 2.4 (ph), none of you should think only of his own affairs, but consider other people's interests also.
when you're upset, who are you thinking about? me, my needs, my hurts, you hurt me. i don't care about you.
but GOD says reverse that. get together and first of all think about what are their needs, what can i do to help them? focus on their needs, not my own needs.
parents have to be peacemakers – tug of war over toys, in house fighting. you have to listen to your kids and be sensitive and empathize with their needs and figure out why are they hurting. why are they arguing over this?
one of the values of conflict is when you solve it, it usually leads to greater intimacy because you understand them better. you've been listening.
just a thought from the front porch…
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