no trust without truth…

i don’t know what it is in your relationship that you won’t talk about.  it may be sex.  but you can’t talk about it.  it may be money.  it may be a secret habit.  it may be in-laws.  it may be an ex spouse.  it may be deep dark fear.  but you can’t talk about it and you hold it in abeyance.  and you keep yourself from having intimacy.  healthy relationships are built on honesty.

the bible says in proverbs 24.26 (tev), an honest answer is a sign of a true friendship.  a true relationship.  a true marriage.  there is no trust without truth.  if you don’t have truth telling in your relationship you can’t have trust.  and if you don’t have trust i don’t care what you say.  it’s not much of relationship whether you’re married or it’s just your boyfriend or girlfriend.  it’s not a relationship without trust.  and trust is predetermined by truth.

in fact we’re commanded by GOD to speak the truth to each other in love.  ephesians 4.15 (tev) says, speak the truth in a spirit of love.  yet so many married couples are stuck in superficiality.  because nobody has the courage to speak up about something.  we all need each other because we’re all blind to our weaknesses.  you don’t know the weaknesses in your life that other people see.  i don’t know the weaknesses in my life that other people see.  we all have blind spots.  some of us have bald spots but all of us have blind spots.  you need other people.

just a thought from the front porch…