Now in preventing an affair: first all make
a commitment to GOD's standard; two, magnify the consequences; three, maintain
your marriage; four, manage my mind; and then maintain proper
relationships.
Studies have shown that most affairs occur between
close personal friends, co workers, family members. All of us though have to live in the world.
You can't go and join a convent; that's not an option for many of us. So you've got to be able to maintain
relationships with people.
Two suggestions:
1. Don't
listen to a member of the opposite sex complain to you about his/her
spouse. It is real tempting to try to be
a good listener when somebody wants to tell you about all the marriage trouble
they're having and all the difficulties and what a bad person their spouse is
being. But that's dangerous. Don't do it.
Steer them quickly to a same-sex counselor and let them get counsel from
someone else.
2. Be aware
of a sense of electricity between you and another person. By that I mean – you're standing in a group
of people, talking, and all of a sudden you're aware, you catch another
person's eye and there's this kind of "buzz" that goes between
you. What was that! You weren't expecting it, you weren't looking
for it, but there it was, it happened.
What do you do? I think we have
two options as believers in JESUS CHRIST:
(1) You can
let that flatter you, feed your ego "Hey, after 18 years of marriage
someone thinks I'm attractive other than my husband." You can respond to that, move into it and
continue the conversation.
(2) Or you
can move backwards, either hug your husband, put your arm around him, do
something that signifies "I'm not interested." Get rid of that sense of electricity, because
it's there.
Just an important thought from the front porch…
2 comments:
I've always struggled to understand when someone states that an affair 'just happened'. How can that be possible? I mean, you have to be attracted to the person first and find out if the feeling is mutual, you have to converse with them at some point, you have to organise where or when you will sleep with them, and the list is endless. So how can all of that just happen and you can't see where it's going?
I think if Christians really feared what God can do after death, they would take some matters more seriously.
It doesn't just happen even though you may believe it won't happen to you. We have to be very careful.
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