stress at work…

anger is ok, its an appropriate response. in fact, if you love, you ought to get angry sometimes.

i get angry seeing people blowing their life on something that doesn't matter. i get angry when i see people walking right in the middle of something that they know is wrong and it is going to destroy them because i care.

but you deal with it quickly. you don't let it hang on. you see, if you swallow your anger, your stomach keeps score. have you found that to be true? all tied in a knot. ulcers. you have a pain in the back or a pain in the neck or other places.

you see, a lot of stress at work is conflict that has never been dealt with and you let it irritate you and irritate you and irritate you, day after day after day and you are under stress because you have never dealt with it right at the bat.

you say, ok, bill, what is the solution? how do i deal with conflict quickly. well, i'll tell you but you are not going to like it.

the solution to conflict resolution is one word, confrontation.

now most of you don’t like confrontation? the only people who like confrontation are troublemakers. they love confrontation. they love to go to people and say, you're blowin' it here and here and here. that is their thrill.

but normal people don't like confrontation. i don't like it and you don't like it. but it is the only way to resolve conflict.

but you say, it’s risky. it is risky. it might backfire in my face. it might. i might go and ask them and they might not totally understand. they might not but the bible says that as far as it depends on you.

now if you have done that, regardless of their response, that is their burden. that's their problem now. you went and said, here are some legitimate issues, their response is their response. it's their problem.

but then, the bible says you have done your best, as far as it depended on you, you lived at peace with everyone. you tried to deal with it.

just a thought from the front porch…