Psychologists tell us that your self worth is based on what you think the most important person in your life thinks about you. So whoever is the most important person in your life, what you think, they think about you is where you get your self-esteem.
I want to suggest that you make JESUS CHRIST the most important person in your life. Nobody is ever going to love you more than HE does. Nobody. If you base your self worth on what other people think of you, of your opinions, then you're going to collapse when you're criticized, rejected, or ignored or if they happen to be thinking about themselves instead of you. But if you build your self worth on the fact that GOD made you, loves you, thinks about you constantly, loves you unconditionally, forgives you, sent HIS own SON to die for you, it doesn't matter what anybody else says about you because they can't take it away,that relationship with CHRIST. That is the foundation for really feeling good bout your self. HE affirms your worth.
When JESUS CHRIST becomes the most important person in your life, your self worth soars. What does this say about me being kind to other people? I am to affirm the worth of others. Just as CHRIST affirms my worth, I am to affirm the worth of other people.
Romans 15:7 (NIV), "Accept one another then just as CHRIST has accepted you." I Peter 2:17 (LB), "Show respect for everyone." I Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV), "Encourage one another and build each other up."
How well do you affirm those in your life? Are you stingy with praise? Do you give more strokes or more pokes? Do you give more cheers or more jeers?
If you were given a dollar bill for every person you affirm and GOD took away a dollar bill for every person you criticized would you be rich or poor?
Just a thought from the front porch…