this is so important. being candid and being connected go together. somebody says, i feel disconnected from my husband… i feel disconnected from my girlfriend… i feel disconnected from my mom… it’s because you’re not talking about something that’s a big thing in the way. candid and connected go together.
the road to intimacy is through the tunnel of conflict. in fact, there is no such thing as real intimacy without conflict. if you’ve never had any conflict in your relationship it means one thing. you are living at a superficial level. we’re all different and when you get to the basic differences you’re going to have conflict. you married a sinner, men. and she married a bigger one. when you put two sinners together there’s going to be conflict. so if you never have any conflict in your relationship you are living at a superficial level. but conflict is the way to intimacy.
if you’ll stay in that tunnel you will work it out. it’s tough. you may have to get some help. you come out on the other side you’ll come out with a level of intimacy and soul satisfaction and knowing each other and partnership that the world knows nothing about.
just a thought from the front porch…
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