in this matter of dealing with difficult people you can't and you don’t need to please everybody.
in john 5.30 JESUS says (niv), I seek to please HIM who sent me. you see, even JESUS didn't try to please everybody. even GOD can't please everybody.
one person wants it to rain, another doesn’t want it to rain. one wants the jets to win, another wants them to lose.
down in texas they want oil prices to go up, we here in new york want them to go down.
even GOD can't please everybody and only a fool would try to do what even GOD can't do. so fact number one is that you can't please everybody.
look what luke 6.26 (niv) says, woe to you when all men speak well of you.
it's probably because you are dead. that's the only time that everybody is going to speak well of you, when you're dead.
i meet CHRISTians all of the time who feel very, very guilty, they have a crazy maker in their life. they have an irregular person and they try and try to make peace with this person but they fail and they feel so guilty. but the fact is, it may not be your fault. they are just flat out difficult. they are unpleasable so realize that you can't please everybody.
just a thought from the front porch…
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Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
dealing with difficult people…
newsweek awhile back had a cover article called stress on the job. what you and your boss can do about it. it had on the cover, dagwood bumstead being twirled around by his boss in midair.
it’s interesting as you read through it that the number one source of stress is people. in your work situation, difficult people. and there are five different kinds of difficult people to deal with.
#1. demanding people.
#2. dishonest people.
#3. disagreeable people.
#4. defensive people.
and #5 demeaning people.
so how do you deal with people like that?
well, the bible says, first of all realize that you can't please everybody. you can't.
romans 12 verse 18 (niv), if it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
listen, there are some people that you can't please? no matter what you do, no matter what you try, no matter how nice you are to them, you just can't please them. they are unpleaseable. you can't please everybody but you also don't need to please everybody.
look at this verse, proverbs 29.25 in the good news bible, it is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you.
it is an emotional trap when you start worrying about what other people think. you don't have to please everybody anymore.
you see there is a myth that says, i must be liked and approved of by everybody in order to be happy. but it's just not true. you can be happy in spite of people who still don't like you? you don't have to have everybody in the world's approval in order to get along? you don't need it.
folks, we buy things that we don't need with money that we don't have to impress people that we don't even like. and that is dumb. that just is dumb.
just a thought from the front porch…
it’s interesting as you read through it that the number one source of stress is people. in your work situation, difficult people. and there are five different kinds of difficult people to deal with.
#1. demanding people.
#2. dishonest people.
#3. disagreeable people.
#4. defensive people.
and #5 demeaning people.
so how do you deal with people like that?
well, the bible says, first of all realize that you can't please everybody. you can't.
romans 12 verse 18 (niv), if it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
listen, there are some people that you can't please? no matter what you do, no matter what you try, no matter how nice you are to them, you just can't please them. they are unpleaseable. you can't please everybody but you also don't need to please everybody.
look at this verse, proverbs 29.25 in the good news bible, it is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you.
it is an emotional trap when you start worrying about what other people think. you don't have to please everybody anymore.
you see there is a myth that says, i must be liked and approved of by everybody in order to be happy. but it's just not true. you can be happy in spite of people who still don't like you? you don't have to have everybody in the world's approval in order to get along? you don't need it.
folks, we buy things that we don't need with money that we don't have to impress people that we don't even like. and that is dumb. that just is dumb.
just a thought from the front porch…
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