it’s all in the way you say it…

in confronting someone in love you plan when you’re going to talk to then, what you’re going to say to them and then you plan how you’re going to say it. this is also very important. proverbs 1218 (tev) says, thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword. wisely spoken words can heal. it’s all in the way you say it. if you say it thoughtlessly, it’s probably going to hurt them. but if you think it through and think how you’re going to say it and when and what you’re going to say, then that has the potential to heal them.

now there are some things that work for the best response. there are different ways to say it if you want the message to get through to the person you love.

first of all, you say it tactfully. proverbs 16.21 (tev) says, a wise mature person is known for his understanding. the more pleasant his words the more persuasive he is.

here’s the point: i’m never persuasive when i’m abrasive. if you want to get the message across, you don’t say it offensively. that will be received defensively. you don’t say it rudely, arrogantly, angrily, in frustration, in irritation, in annoyance. you don’t say it like that. you say it pleasantly. the more pleasant your words, the more persuasive you’ll be. you say it with tact. you let it come out but let it come out in a way that is pleasant and pleasing and positive.

just a thought from the front porch…