another thing you do in confronting someone you love is to plan what you’re going to say. proverbs 25.11 (cev) says, the right word at the right time is like precious gold set in silver. if you’re going to plan what you’re going to say to this friend, you want to plan two things: you want to plan your introduction and you want to plan your illustrations.
now your introduction is very important. how you introduce a touchy subject will determine whether it’s going to be received well or whether it’s going to be rejected. in other words, if you want to talk about how the house needs to be cleaner, you wouldn’t start by saying, “the roaches are begging for raid!” or “this place is a pigsty.” or some other sarcastic remark. sarcasm never, ever, ever works. you choose the right introduction. how am i going to broach this subject?
then you need to have some good examples ready. for instance… have your illustrations ready. but you need to choose illustrations that that person understands, not just ones that you particularly like.
if you’ve never read anything about this, a good book is the language of love. it talks about seven different kinds of love languages. we all hear things differently. you need to choose the illustrations that are appropriate for the person you’re trying to deal with. plan what you’re going to say in advance.
just a thought from the front porch…
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