the timing is important……

when you plan to have a loving confrontation with your husband, your wife, a son, a daughter, a parent, a friend, a co-worker, a relative who’s kind of dysfunctional what you need to first of all, plan when you say it. proverbs 25.12 (ms) says, a wise friend’s kindly reprimand is like a gold ring slipped on your finger. if you’re wise, if you’re a wise friend, when you talk to your friend about a tough issue, you choose the right timing – a timely reprimand.

when you have a tough issue to deal with in a relationship, have you discovered that timing is everything? bringing up a tough thing: you don’t want to bring it up when they’re tired. you don’t want to bring it up when they’re under pressure. you don’t want to bring it up when they’re in a hurry. you may be ready to deal with the issue. you may be ready to unload. but they’re not ready to hear it.

columbia university did a study and discovered that more arguments occur right before dinner than any other time of day. that makes sense. we’re tired, we’re cranky, we have low blood sugar, we’re hungry. that’s not a good time to bring up a major issue – right before dinner. the point is this: you don’t ever drop a bomb. if you’re doing this in love, you think about the best timing for them, when they’re rested and when they’re ready to hear it.

just a thought from the front porch…