Thursday, June 21, 2012

draw closer instead of repelling…

when i share my hidden secrets with another person, first of all its liberating, then its empowering and then it is endearing.  what i mean by that is when you’re honest about your weakness to somebody else it actually draws that person closer to you instead of repelling them away.

we think that people will like us if we pretend we’ve got it all together and we put on a show and we wear a mask and pretend that we’re perfect.  actually that doesn’t work at all.  we actually are gathered to, we gravitate toward people who are authentic.  we like them.  we gravitate toward people who are humble.  so when you do that it actually causes people to be closer to you rather than further away. 

anytime i write here on bill’s front porch and i tell you one of my faults or one of my weaknesses you like me more.  you really do.  the fact is we like people who just admit it.  “bill doesn’t think he’s some hot shot.  he’s just like us.  he has the same problems we do.  he messes up just like we do.  we’re all in the same boat.” 

if all i did was tell you how great i am and how strong i am you’d say, “well whoopty-do for you!  that’s not me.  i’m not in that situation.  forget it.”  but when you share a weakness, a sin, a struggle, a fault people go, “that’s like me!”

just a thought from the front porch… 

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