Saturday, February 15, 2014

A bucket full or unlimited supply of anger…

Proverbs 29:11 (NIV), "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." 

You need to understand that you have an unlimited supply of anger.  There is a myth out there psychologists teach us "You've got this bucket full of anger in your life and if you'll just dump out the bucket it will be all empty and everything will be all right and fantastic and happy." 

Some psychologists teach you to do this thing called ventilation.  If I just kind of spiritually vomit, then I feel a whole lot better, I've got it all out.  Once you empty your bucket you'll be OK.  There's a whole therapy about this called Primal scream.  If I can just scream out my anger then all the things that were done wrong to me growing up will be fine.

There's only one problem with that.  It doesn't work.  Why?  Because you don't have a bucket of anger in your life, you've got a factory.  This factory has this incessant ability to produce more and more anger.  Study after study and the Bible teaches real clearly that aggression causes more aggression.  Anger causes more anger.  Outbursts lead to other outbursts.  As a parent, if I outburst against my kid, what am I modeling for them?  Outbursts.  It just comes back to you.

The fact is we are all irritated by different things.  For example:  When somebody in your family makes you late, does that make you angry?  When somebody makes you wait, does that irritate you?  When somebody in your family doesn't remember what you told them? 

We all respond to different irritations in different ways.  When we're irritated some of us blow up, and some of us clam up.  Some of us are mountains of Vesuvius and some of us stuff it down.  Some of us are skunks and some of us are turtles.  The skunk, when he gets angry, he lets everybody know it.  The turtle just pulls back into his shell, harbors it there. 

Just a thought from the front porch…

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