Saturday, May 19, 2012

it messes you up physically, spiritually, emotionally…

one reason why you’ve got to let go of that hurt that someone did to you is because GOD has forgiven you and another reason is because resentment makes you miserable.

you see, resentment always hurts you more than it does the other person.  it makes you the victim.  some of you have been hurt by people in the past and you’re continuing to allow them to hurt you in the present and that’s dumb.  they can’t hurt you anymore.  your past is past.  they can only hurt you if you choose to continue to hold on to the hurt with resentment.  that’s your choice.  you can let it go.

you see forgiveness is not a feeling, forgiveness is a choice.  you just say, i’m going to let it go. 

holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.  it’s like turning a shotgun on yourself, pulling the trigger and hoping to hit them with the kick of the recoil.  it always hurts you. 

now when this king here in matthew 18 heard that this servant who he had forgiven his debt of 12 million dollars had thrown into prison a person who owed him 17 dollars he was livid and he brings this unforgiving servant in and says in verses 33 & 34 (niv), “shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as i had on you?”  in anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured.  now the word jailers in greek literally means “torturers.”  he says this guy deserves the torture chamber. 

here’s the point.  nothing tortures your life more than resentment.  resentment.  bitterness.  it is a poison that when you swallow it it’s worse than cancer.  it will eat you alive.  resentment robs you of peace, of joy, of happiness.  it messes you up physically, spiritually, emotionally.  resentment can make you sick. 

heart circulation magazine reported findings from medical studies that people carrying resentment are twice as likely to have a stroke, three times as likely to have a heart attack or bypass surgery, and four times more likely to have unhealthy cholesterol.  in another study stanford researchers have linked carrying a grudge to higher levels of diabetes and cancer.  “there is a physical cost to holding on to anger.” 

job 21.23&25 (gnb) says this, some people stay healthy till the day they die; they die happy... others have no happiness at all; they live and die with bitter heartsif you want to be healthy, happy, you’ve got to let it go. 

just a thought from the front porch…


Anonymous said...

Hi Bill-
Originally I was going to write that "it's not dumb." But then I read more of the post, and you're right, it is dumb. And I'm still being dumb myself, struggling with resentment. It's ridiculous, the was I can feel my physical body tighten up when I am thinking about a specific incident. Thank God for my coping technique of writing. It really does relieve the pressure.
BTW: Like the blog. Looks like you've got some messages I need to hear. Thanks.

bill williams said...

thank you so much for your comment. life is tough and a lot of very difficult situations happen to us. how we react to them makes all the difference. hold steady, my new friend.