Here are some steps on how to pray about a problem.
First of all confess any know sin and commit the decision to GOD then ask GOD to reveal HIS will by giving you a desire.
After you've got your desire out of the way and you can honestly say, "GOD, I'm willing to go either way," then the third thing you do is say, "GOD, help me to know what YOU want by giving me a desire one way or the other."
Some people don't want to do that because they think if they desire it, GOD must be against it. Some people think that – if you desire it then GOD must not want it. That's not true.
A lot of times GOD is in our desires. HE can direct us with SPIRIT-controlled desires – Psalm 37:4 (NIV), "Delight yourself in the LORD and HE will give you the desires of your heart." If you're really trying to do what's right, your desires are going to be in line.
Mark 11:24 (KJV), "What things you desire, when you pray, believe that you receive them and you shall have them."
How do I know? James 1:5 (NIV), "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask GOD who gives generously." You say, "GOD, YOU give me the right kind of desire." That's what you pray. "LORD, give me the desire to do the right thing."
You're facing a difficult decision, a problem. First, you confess your sins – Get right with GOD, make sure everything's in harmony. Then you commit the decision to the LORD and keep praying until you get in neutral about it – GOD, I'm willing to go either way. Three, ask GOD to reveal HIS will by giving you a desire – "LORD, give me the desire to do the right thing." Why? Philippians 2:13 (NIV), "It is GOD that works in you to will and to act according to HIS good purpose." HE can give you the desire.
How do you know if the desire is from GOD? One good test you can tell if a desire is from GOD is to sit on it for a while and say, "GOD, if this desire is from YOU, make it stronger. If this desire is not from YOU, take it away." Ask GOD to do that. It's a legitimate request.
Just a thought from the front porch…