Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Reconciliation not resolution…

In striving to find peace in conflict emphasize reconciliation not resolution. And there's a big difference.  

"Reconciliation" means to reestablish the relationship.  "Resolution" means to resolve every issue.  You're just not going to resolve every issue.  Why is this?  It’s because we are all shaped differently. 

GOD has used five things to shape you:  spiritual gifts, heart (your passion, what your interests are), unique abilities, unique personality, unique experiences in life.  We are all as different as snowflakes.  That means it is inevitable that there's going to be differences in a relationship.  Why?  Different background, different gifts, different personality.  All these things. 

However, you can disagree without being disagreeable.  You can have unity in a relationship without having uniformity.  You can walk hand in hand in a relationship without seeing eye to eye.  You can have reconciliation without having resolution of every difference.  Because you are different. 

When two people agree on everything, one of them isn't necessary.  GOD meant for those differences.  In fact, opposites usually attract.  Once they're married the opposites attack.  So you have to get back on track by emphasizing reconciliation not resolution. 

When you focus on peace in your relationship, the issues that need to be resolved often become irrelevant, certainly not worth ruining the relationship over. 

Just a thought from the front porch…

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